Where can I get help for my loved one?

“Out Patient” Options

Is your loved one in legal trouble?  They may be required to attend Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous meetings or something similar.  There are plenty of options, and if you and your loved one are serious about finding a solution to their addiction, then the quality of the meeting is important.

Not all AA or NA meetings are created equal.  The main reason for this is because there is no central planning committee or governing body to regulate meetings.  Each meeting relies on the informal leadership.  Scope out several meetings before settling on one.

Things to watch out for:

  • War Stories:  when participants hash out old drug and alcohol stories in order to impress their fellow members
  • Too many people getting court ordered meeting papers signed.  Yes it’s what your loved one is there for, but there should be a balance, and many are not serious about getting help.  They’re just showing up to get that signature and the quality of the meeting suffers
  • No challenge:  do the members of the meeting challenge your loved one?  Or is the main feel of the meeting a big pat on the back; sympathy not empathy?